After Rebirth, the Celebrity Daughter is the Medical Expert!

Chapter 807: Chapter 649: You Are a True Practitioner

"Sorry, I’m just an ordinary person living an ordinary life. I may not be able to offer you constructive advice," Ning Youguang gently approached the purple tulips and said, "I don’t know what kind of life is perfect."

"Huh?"

"You don’t even know what kind of life is perfect, then we can’t find a reference in the 3D world."

Li Qing and Jiang Wei wore identical shocked expressions.

"That’s just how it is," Ning Youguang shrugged, "I really don’t know the definition of a perfect life."

Li Qing thought for a moment and said, "I’ve always thought your life is quite perfect."

"More dreamy and romantic than the sweetest idol drama," Jiang Wei nodded as well, "and it stands up to scrutiny."

That’s why she and Li Qing were curious.

Ning Youguang pondered and said, "Maybe my life seems okay to you, and I’m certainly satisfied with it myself, but I think this shouldn’t be defined or used as a standard for a successful life or a reference for others to strive for, because I believe everyone’s definition of a ’perfect life’ is different. It can’t be defined, just like ’happiness,’ which is different for every individual."

"I understand what you mean," Jiang Wei said.

Li Qing agreed, "Otherwise, can you tell us what kind of state can build a stable or happy emotional relationship or marriage?"

"I want to hear too," Jiang Wei said, "there are too many failed marriages and relationships."

This is a common social phenomenon.

She can choose to be single, but it doesn’t mean she would reject happiness.

If she could really get the secret to happiness from the "successful model" old classmate Ning Youguang, why not?

"Many emotional experts have interpretations of this issue," Ning Youguang smiled.

"No, those so-called experts are mostly just bluffing," Li Qing said, "I only trust you; I want to hear what you have to say."

Jiang Wei nodded, "You’re a genuine practitioner, reliable."

Ning Youguang thought for a moment and said, "I don’t have any really viable advice to give you."

"You’re too modest, sister," Li Qing said.

"So modest," Jiang Wei was truly impressed by Ning Youguang’s modesty and low-profile.

Ning Youguang smiled, "It’s not modesty; I really feel that my daily life is just very ordinary."

"Fine, fine," Jiang Wei said, "then please share some ordinary daily relationship tips with us, okay?"

"I don’t want to engage in such uncertain love anymore," Li Qing said, "next time, let’s just head straight for marriage."

"Oh, please don’t!" Jiang Wei and Ning Youguang were startled, "If the relationship isn’t going well, don’t think marriage will fix it."

"Oh—" Li Qing said, "I know, I was just saying."

"It scared me," Jiang Wei clutched her chest, "Don’t drop one hassle to pick up a bigger one."

"I won’t," Li Qing said, "I was just randomly saying something."

"I hope so," Jiang Wei raised her glass.

Ning Youguang smiled, "Let me ask you a question first."

"Go ahead," Li Qing.

"When do you feel like you want to be in love and get married?" Ning Youguang.

The question resonated with Li Qing deeply, "When I like someone so much that I want to merge with them, to be together forever, like being called by a mission. It’s not my brain deciding whether to be with them, but my heart and soul feeling they can’t miss this person, and then you’re together."

Jiang Wei replied, "It’s probably when I feel being together makes me a better person."

Ning Youguang asked again, "Would you compromise and change for someone in a relationship?"

Li Qing said, "I hope they can accept me."

Jiang Wei, "It depends on the situation. For now, I don’t want to spend too much energy fixing my self."

"Rationally speaking, we should all try to be with secure people," Ning Youguang knowingly said, "But maintaining a marriage or a stable emotional relationship is like dedicating oneself to a mission; it’s a process of changing oneself. Intimacy is also a struggle between each individual’s self."

"Ah, you mean we’re not ready to enter a stable relationship," Li Qing.

"Isn’t this the ’everyone wants shelter, who will be the harbor’ problem?" Jiang Wei.

"Everyone wants shelter and doesn’t want to be the harbor often means lack of security," Ning Youguang said, "Yet many people with good security feel like they can think rationally and make correct decisions when facing emotional issues, and thus handle intimate relationships well."

"Do insecure people always fail in relationships?" Jiang Wei questioned, "I don’t think that’s necessarily the case."

"You’re right, it’s not that people without security fail in intimate relationships," Ning Youguang said, "In my observation, many people fail because they make the wrong decisions, not understanding the core issues when entering a marriage or long-term stable relationship."

"What are those?" Li Qing.

"It’s about whether they are willing to relinquish control over their life for a marriage," Ning Youguang said, "The truth is, no matter how good the other person, binding with them limits personal freedom. Intimacy is an education for each person; whether it turns out well depends on both sides’ willingness to be changed. Some understand that the best way to change someone is to love them, to bring out their good sides and make them better through love. But if someone wants to change you in this way, can you accept it? A good relationship requires losing some of the self to make room for each other, putting the relationship above the individual, and that’s the secret to emotional happiness."

——"Through getting along, gradually becoming a better person."

"So we are too self-centered," Li Qing and Jiang Wei exchanged glances, "That’s why it’s hard to maintain a long-term intimate relationship with someone."

"’Acceptance,’ ’change,’ ’letting go’ can solve all relationship issues," Ning Youguang said, "Accept what can be accepted, change what cannot and if it can’t be changed, then let go. All roads lead to Rome; taking a viable path is the true road to happiness."

"You make it sound simple," Li Qing said, "but I feel like I encounter various problems when trying to apply it."

"The logic is clear," Jiang Wei also said, "But practical application gets defeated by various sudden issues, making love and marriage feel so troublesome."1314